Is it us?
Most people think that animals have sex only for procreation or, in the case of certain donkeys, profit. While some legends are in fact valid (for example, all swans are indeed rapists), it's just not that easy to apply human horniness to every living thing. Generally, the more socially advanced a species is, the more likely it is to have sex for reasons other than reproduction. Consider the bonobo, or pygmy chimpanzee, whose inclination to have sex for favors, pleasure, social positioning, and food places it a notch above us humans, who will do anything for a piece of cake. And let's not forget the dolphin, who's been caught trying to copulate with seals, sharks, turtles, eels, and even some Floridians for an extra fee. However, would the Shaw's jird, a sort of gerbil-y animal that copulates up to 240 times in an hour, be considered horny, or just efficient? Very rarely does one get to have the cut-and-dried experience of the Miami Metrozoo's own Ron Magill, zoologist and creator of the "Sex & the Animals" show there, who recounts his own experience with one particularly beguiling little otter: "Every morning, I would go out and turn on the pool spigot, and she would come out, and she'd look at me and she'd squat on that little spray of water going into her pool, and after just 15 seconds of positioning herself perfectly on that spray of water, she would go into this little quiver and convulsion and tip over. And it's a beautiful thing." But unfortunately, as usually happens with lower species, she simply won't stop calling.
When my boyfriend and I make out, the smell of his body makes me sick. Do people's smells change when they get turned on, or am I hallucinating?
Slow Life, Slow Sex: I am wombin', hear me roar!Womb is a really interesting English word. There's a saying, "From the Womb to the Tomb." In Japanese, we use the term "From Cradle to Grave." But the fact of the matter is that every single person on this Earth grew up in a womb, was born from a womb and is now alive, so the womb is of extreme importance.
The womb is an organ that plays a vital role not just in the reproductive process, but also with sex.
Women's sexual reactions go in four stages: arousal, plateau, orgasm and withdrawal. Although men also go through the identical stages, the way they progress is considerably different to what happens with women.
Changing the wording a little, men basically have arousal, erection, ejaculation, satisfaction and then it's all over. Men are so simple, their sexual reactions are hardly worth explaining further.
Life is exciting because nobody ever knows what's going to happen tomorrow, but with men's sex people already know what's going to happen from start to finish and they devote all their energy trying to get through that process.
Women, on the other hand, go through a whole lot of different feelings and reactions in their body depending on how they are guided toward orgasm. I don't think it's an exaggeration to say that men won't meet women who have exactly the same sex reactions as they do.
But let's go back to talking about the womb. I've mentioned in earlier columns that drastic changes take place in the vagina as arousal becomes more intense. About one third of the vagina's exterior swells during orgasm, while the area of the vagina near the womb blows up like a balloon and spreads out like a tent.
When this starts to happen, the womb starts to rise together with the sexual reaction. What this does is make a place called the posterior vaginal vault, which forms a pool where sperm can be held. This includes sperm that has been ejaculated and can't leak, drastically -- and naturally -- improving the chances that sperm will progress through to the ova.
When the woman's arousal declines, her womb returns to its original position, but the semen remains inside. There's a thin channel called the uterine cervical canal and the semen, including the sperm inside it, is sucked into the womb like liquids absorbed by a dropper. Isn't the reproductive process absolutely amazing?
How should I know? I don't know what you took. Just try to stay calm and remember that nothing is real and you are safe. And don't look in the mirror! You'll see the devil's face! Sexual arousal amplifies a woman's already superior sense of smell, and a man's odor intensifies during sex due to an increased discharge from scent glands called apocrine glands, which produce fatty, odorous sweat from wherever there is hair on the body. It gets worse: "If he is both aroused and frightened by the situation, it's entirely possible that the wrong cue is being emitted," says neuroscientist Charles J. Wysocki. In other words, he could also be emitting a kind of fear juice, which smells terrible. "It's supposed to let people know that something's wrong here," explains Wysocki. I'll say something's wrong here: The poor guy is terrified of you -- probably because of your drug problem, but it's really none of my business.
Does controlled breathing heighten orgasms?
It depends how you define heighten and how you define orgasms. (Does, controlled, and breathing retain their commonly agreed upon meanings here.) If you define heighten as "change," you'd be technically correct, but if you were an architect, you'd be swiftly fired. Deep breathers, or breathists, if you want, say deep, controlled breathing during sex makes orgasms longer, more spread out, and somehow groovier. "Ecstasy travels on the breath. The more you breathe, the more you feel," says Annie Sprinkle, sexologist, former prostitute, porn star, and someone who's obviously never driven through Gary, Indiana, on a hot day. Mantak Chia, Taoist master, relentless giver of seminars, and author of more than 30 books, instructs his followers to "breathe into the sex organs," but I must take issue with that. One cannot breathe into one's balls unless there has been a terrible accident or, worse, a metaphor. But go ahead and give deep breathing a try. I couldn't tell the difference, but then again, it was a very busy intersection.